Sunday, March 1, 2015

Accept The Truth..

I've been reading emails all last week from people who are in relationships with very obvious signs that it's over. But yet it's too hard to let go. I understand the power of soul-ties and I know how hard it is to leave a relationship and heal from it. I've been there too. But you have to do it. You have to break free and you have to begin the healing process.

Please understand that if a person loves you, they won't continuously hurt you. We all make mistakes. We do things we shouldn't do sometimes, but as adults we are smart enough to make changes. If your partner refuses to make changes and keeps repeating the same disrespecting things over and over, the relationship is over. Each time you're disrespected and you remain in that relationship, your partner loses a little more respect for you. Before you know it, there isn't any respect left.

When you notice that the respect is gone, it's time for you to be gone. It will hurt. It will be hard. They may cry. They may plead. You need to see what they are willing to do to keep you. Sometimes a short separation can be what a relationship needs to push it in the right direction. I remember two months into my marriage my wife left me. She was gone for two or three days. She left me because I didn't keep my word. I said I was done with the street-life but I went back to it. She kept her word and she left. Had she stayed, I would have lost respect for her and the streets would have killed me or landed me in prison. But because she left, it forced me to look myself in the mirror. It forced me to consider my actions and to weigh the consequences of my choices. That space she gave me pushed me to be the man I am today.

If you've left time and time again and your partner keeps going back to their old ways, it's because they aren't willing to grow for you. If a person won't grow for you, let them go so they can grow for themselves.

Stop ignoring the signs. Stop holding on to a sinking ship. Gather yourself and find the strength to walk away if you know that's what you need to do.

Blessings,
Tony G.

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10 comments:

  1. Is there a way to subscribe to the blog,or does on have to continuously come to the site? I've been reading since March 1, and I really feel like you're speaking to directly to me and speaking of my situation.... PRAISE HIM for you and your words of wisdom!!! PREACH ON! Thank you, and GOD bless!!!

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    1. There is an app called "BlogLovin" and yo can subscribe there. Not sure if there is another way. Maybe a blog pro may see this and can tell you. I'm new, lol.

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  2. Great! If not, that's cool I'll just add this page to my bookmarked page section of my browser...Thanks again!

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  3. Great! If not, that's cool I'll just add this page to my bookmarked page section of my browser...Thanks again!

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  4. I left and came back numerous times not addressing the issues just to have them repeated and more issues occur. Now I'm this woman who he doesn't want to be with due to insecurities I have gained. Any advice on how to build myself back, not to get back with but to gain my sanity again?

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  5. Tony,
    What does it mean or what is your take on this, when someone tells you that they love you, but they are sorry that they can't show you affection. Are they just trying to keep you there with that word love?

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  6. Hi, Tony
    I've been a fool multilple times going back to someone who says he loves me but won't change his ways . I know i need to walk away. I am to the point where i am just so embarrassed and don't know what to do . Any suggestions
    Thanks

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    1. Seriously? You're asking for advice? What good will it do you? You already admitted that "I know I need to walk away". Hey, take your own advice for once. Grow some backbone!

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  7. Powerful! Tony please add Dallas on your tour list. You have a lot of supporters here. My friends and I discussed your blog over brunch this weekend. Thank-you. God Bless You!

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