Are you insecure in your relationship?

Are you insecure in your relationship?

Do you question your partner too often?

Why are you insecure?

There are few main reasons that people are insecure in their relationship.
1. You've been cheated on before: If this is the case that means you need to heal. If you've moved on to a new relationship and now you're questioning your partner for no good reason that means you're still damaged goods. If you've been cheated on by your current partner and you haven't forgiven, that's an issue as well. You may need to take a break from relationships and take time to heal before you deal. Take a course like Real Love University. Read a book like Real Love. Fall in love with yourself and date yourself for a while. Once you find it in your heart to forgive your ex for the pain they've caused and you're bored with single life, you can move on. Bored with single life doesn't mean you're desperate for love. It means that you're ready for the next chapter in your life.

2. You have low self-esteem: If this is the case you have to change the messaging that you've been speaking to yourself. You may need to hire a life coach and hear positive affirmations weekly. You may need to do a few sessions with a therapist to understand the root issues. You also need to stop comparing yourself to others. Know that you are enough and that you are worthy of love. Once you get it in your mind that you deserve the love you have, then you can begin to enjoy it.

3. You're cheating or thinking about cheating: This fact is something that people don't like to confront. A lot of times we accuse our partner of doing things that we've done or thinking about doing. We know if put in certain situations we would cheat or consider it, so we automatically assume our partner would do the same. "It sounds like you have a guilty conscience!" Have you ever been told that? If so, that's exactly what it is. Once you tidy up your life and your heart is in order, you'll stop assuming that your partner has bad intentions for the relationship.

Those are just a few reasons you might be insecure in your relationship. It's important that you take time to heal from the past and make sure that you're balanced in life before you get into another relationship. A relationship should be free of insecurities.

Insecurities in a relationship are like termites in a house. Eventually they will destroy it. ~Tony A. Gaskins Jr.

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